God & The Single Mom

As a single mom, you may be depending heavily on someone to provide or be a comforter and a way maker for your child/children. Well I'm here to let you know that you never have to depend on anyone but God who is our provider, our way maker and our comforter.

God is the best child support a single mom can have. There is NEVER a need to stress about what a dad is not doing for his child/children because God takes care of us all. I was at a point in my life where I worried about it a lot. As time went by I began to realize that God is the best child support any mom can have. The moment I decided to put my trust strongly in God and depend fully on Him was when I realized the goodness of God. I had an experience where God came to me one night in early 2014 and He said to me, "Manessa put your trust in Me not in Man". I was going through so much within that year and I never understood why. God has been amazing and He has been a comforter through it all. Single mom, I'm sure if you put your trust in God you will realize how faithful He is. He will never let you down and you will never be disappointed as long as you trust Him.

God is also a provider. Do not depend on man to provide for you or your child. God is the provider!. When you trust God, He will bring persons in your life and use them through Him to assist you and help you along the way...I'm telling you! If He did it for me He will do it for you. Man will fail you but God never fails, He will support you and your child so trust Him and have Faith that he will do exceedingly and abundantly above all you can ever ask or imagine. The bible says in Proverbs 3:5-6, "Trust in the Lord with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding. Seek His will in all you do and He will show you which path to take". I know sometimes it may get a little rough but do not lose hope and do not lose faith. Continue to seek God and He will give you everything you need, Instead of building hate, anger and bitterness for that father for not doing His part, pray for Him. Don't you ever stop praying!

I would like to encourage you to keep your eyes fixed on God. Remember that He is the best child support. Your child/children may not have a father figure in their life but its now time for you to allow God to be that for your child. Let God show your child through you what love and support really is. His love and support is always the best. When you focus on Him, He will give you all that you need. He is going to bless you with a great man who will be a great father to your child/children and a great husband to you. So Hold On! Keep the faith and stay strong single mom. God is fighting the battle for you.

Manessa ;)

Who Are You Serving? God or Man!?

So everyone wants to be in a relationship but the question is.... Does your relationship with Christ line up? Is everything in place? Are you putting God first? Are you spending time with Him daily? 
Ok so let me get straight to the point...

Being in a relationship is NOT so much important, especially when your relationship has no purpose. I get it! It feels good to have that someone right? Sister, if that someone isn't following God then honey you're in the wrong relationship, (I had to learn that). You cannot be one place and he's the other place, both of you need to be on the same page. That man can't love you if he doesn't love God. That man can't love/lead you if all he is doing is leading you to his bedroom all the time. And who is to blame? You are! Love waits until marriage...

1John 14:15 "If you love me obey my commandments". 

You can't glorify God if you're not obeying His commandments. Your relationship with God won't ever line up if that's what you're hoping for... Stop giving yourself to these random guys who doesn't even want to marry you, who doesn't even see a future with you. Oh, he says he does but is He showing it? If he was, he would lead you to Christ and not his bed. Know the difference between LOVE and LUST!! Serve God not MAN!!

It's time to learn to tell your emotions to "shhh". I get it! You wanna cuddle, kiss, and spend a lot of time together but honestly you have to tell your emotions to shut up. Set your standards with those randoms and obey God. Love God more than you love that guy. Truth be told, there is no relationship that is more important than your relationship with God. So stop putting so much time and effort into  these random guys. Its time to put God first! The only way your relationship with God will ever be able to line up is if you Serve Him, spend time with Him daily, apply His word to your life, appreciate Him more and do what He requires you to do. God will bless you with the right guy at the right time. Put your heart into Christ and Christ alone. When you stay connected to God, you won't want to sin....So if that guy isn't leading you to Christ--- LEAVE!! You will benefit NOTHING if you're in a relationship with someone who is not following God.

Do not give into temptation, overcome them. 1Corinthians 10:13 "The temptations in your life are no different from what others experience. God is faithful, He will not allow you to be tempted beyond your strength. He will provide a way out so that you may be able to endure it". 

I encourage you to put God first at all times. Seek Him and allow Him to direct the right guy to you. Guard your heart (Proverbs 4:23)..... Let it be just you and God from now on. Be Encouraged Sister...

~Manessa.

What Happened Next?!

So in my last blog I started to share a little of my life's story. 
Well let me continue....

After me wanting to do what ever I wanted with my life, things still seemed amazing to me in my relationship. I was still blinded. After about a year in an unequally yoked relationship I got pregnant. At first I was ashamed because I thought about what people would say about me but after going to God and asking him for His forgiveness I felt a relief. I knew I was forgiven but I still hid myself from persons who were not close to me. But as time went by I stopped worrying about what people would say when they see me because i knew I was still a daughter of God. 

Six months within my pregnancy, I got engaged. I was so happy and all I could think of is seeing myself walk down the aisle with who I thought I loved. During my pregnancy, I still rejected God and chose a relationship with a human being rather than a relationship with God. After 9 months of carrying a baby, I gave birth to a beautiful baby girl name Paige. I love her so much and thank God for blessing me with her. She's my best friend. 

So before I get side tracked let me tell you what happened after Paige was born and how faithful God is. I moved in with who was my fiance. Continued to reject God's calling. Six months of shacking up were the worst six months of my life. The dysfunctional relationship got worse and worse each week. I didn't know how to get out of it because i was so wrapped up in it. I kept asking God to give me a way out and when he did i still stayed. But there was this one time that i cried out to God and asked Him for answers and to reveal to me everything I need to know. God whispered to me and said, "Manessa, I want You". I didn't quite understand why God would want me after all that I've done and how much I've rejected Him. He revealed to me everything I needed to know just like I asked. It hurt but I knew then that God was for me and not against me. After it all, I moved back to my mom with my daughter away from all the dysfunction. I left the relationship and called off what I thought was an engagement. All of this was the work of the Lord. I had to go through this to realize exactly what God wants for me and He only wants the best. I can assure you that if I was still where I was a year ago, I would not be where I am today. 

A woman after God's own heart and I want nothing more. I want to serve Him and Him alone. As I grew closer to God, I grew further away from wanting to marry a man who isn't following Him. God has been faithful, He has brought me back. I am now a Youth Leader at my church, a mentor in a group called Alliance girls and I am also a kids club teacher at my church. Well isn't God amazing?! If God can use me I'm sure he can use you too sister. Oh and He has blessed me with a gem and my life changed ever since. I love you Paige :)

Today I want to encourage you sister to seek God's face like never before. Let Christ direct your life. Be a woman of God. Do not give a boyfriend husband benefits. WAIT! until marriage. Its gonna be worth it. God will prove Himself to you as long as you let Him. There is no relationship that is more important than a relationship with God. 

Matthew 6:33

"Seek the kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously and He will give you everything you need"

Manessa.