Single But You Desire To Be Married

Singleness is a gift. I realized that after I left my last relationship. I know many females desire to be married which nothing is wrong with that. It's okay to desire to be married but remember that God should be first in your life before anyone. Make sure your life and your relationship reflects Christ at all times.

In order for you to receive the true blessings of God, you have to do things His way. You cannot do things your way and hope that in return God will bless it. Only what you do for Christ will last. As people, we have to be very very careful that we don't put things before God. There is nothing wrong with desiring to be married but remember that there is nothing you can do to change your single status. There is nothing that you can do to move God if He is not ready to move. You have to learn to be content with JUST Jesus!

God is NEVER going to bless you with something or someone that He knows you will put before Him. He knows your heart. He knows if you can handle being married. He knows if you're going to put someone before Him. He knows if its gonna make you stumble. God is not going to bless you with someone or something that is gonna make you fall. God knows when you are ready. Its not going to happen before His time so don't force it.

Quit worrying about the things you would like to happen in your life. Instead of worrying, go after Jesus. Seek Him above all else. Desire Him. He is all that you need.

You wanna know how to get God's attention? Be obedient to Him, be faithful and be diligent. Instead of complaining about what you don't have, be grateful for what you do have. Praise God because He's good. The bible says in Hebrews 11:6 "But without faith it is impossible to please God. For anyone who comes to God, must believe that He is God and the He is a rewarder of them that diligently seek Him."

I would like to encourage you to STOP stressing out. If you desire to be married, make sure its for the right purpose. You don't have to force yourself out of singleness to be in a relationship. In time (God's time), He will bless you with your heart's desire. Stay lifted sister. ;)

~Manessa~

My Life.... (This is my 1st blog before my "What Happened Next" blog.)

Hi, my name is Manessa and I would like to share a bit of my life's story with you. 

So here we go.... On May 7, 2010, I rededicated my life to the one who created me (God)... I felt safe in His arms the moment I turned my life over to Him. Three months later, August 1, 2010, I decided it was time to be baptized. I wanted my life to reflect Christ in every way possible and trust me when i tell you..... my life was so amazing, all because it revolved around Christ. So.... a year passed as I continued living for Christ and doing the will of God. A few more months went by and Christ was still the head of my life. 

Now at some point in my life I thought that i would be able to live for Christ and be in a relationship all at once. I got into a relationship and it was an unequally yoked relationship. As time progressed, while in that relationship my relationship with Christ began to fall apart. Yes! I was still trying to juggle the two, telling myself that I will continue going to church on Sunday, youth group on Friday to assist with youth group and kids club on Wednesday to assist with that... But when I was done with all that "church stuff", it went back to my relationship that I thought was so perfect and sweet. I repeated that cycle over and over until slowly but surely I drifted away from Christ, church and everything else. I was then so wrapped up in my relationship that I forgot about everyone and everything. Most important, I forgot about God.

Matthew 6:24 "No one can serve two masters. For you will hate one and love the other, you will be devoted to one and despise the other"...

I completely strayed away from God and my eyes were fixed only on someone who was not after God's heart. I got completely distracted. My whole life started to revolve around this one guy.. (worse move ever).... I started doing all the things I should never be doing. Things like: having sex before marriage, sleeping over on weekends or sometimes even week days, playing the wife role without a ring and all of that other stuff. Mind you... I was happy and content with it all because in my mind, as long as he was happy then life was good.. (wrong thinking)... I still didn't realize that God was tugging on my heart because I was completely blinded by what was in front of me. Nothing else mattered, my relationship became my god.

Exodus 20:3 "You must not have any other gods but me".

1John 5:21 "Dear children, keep away from anything that might take God's place in your hearts".

Keep in mind that anything/one that you put before God is your god... So this is basically what happened with me. God was placed on the back burner. I wanted to do my own thing with my life and not what Christ wanted me to do. I can assure you that it was definitely the wrong move. Satan came to steal and destroy me as soon as I turned away from God. 

I want you reader to read my next blog and also to be encouraged. In my next Blog you will read about what happened next.

Jesus Should Be 1st

Who or what are you putting before Jesus?

Is it your spouse?

Is it your boyfriend?

Is it your job?

Is it your child?

Hmmm, what about your new car?

Is it money?

Ok! I can go on and on... But guess what? You should put NOTHING or NO ONE before Jesus.
If you do, then whatever or whoever it is that you put before Him is your god. Many times we get so caught up in this world that we neglect the one who died for us. We focus only on pleasing ourselves and not Jesus. 

Are you spending more time with your boyfriend than you spend with Jesus?.. If so.. STOP IT!!

I always think about the price Jesus paid for me. Everything that He went through, He did that for and for you. He was beaten, spat on, pierced in His side, He was mocked, laughed at... I mean everything you can think of is what He went through for us.... Have you ever asked yourself if anyone in this world would ever do that for you?... I know I have.... My answer was... NO ONE... Jesus did that and that proves His love for us.

How is it that you put things before Jesus. Why are you neglecting Him? Your job, car, money, spouse, boyfriend, child etc.. NOTHING should ever come before Jesus... Its really time to get your priorities in order. Christ should be your #1 priority...

You would take the time out to call or text your partner every single day. You won't go to bed unless you speak to that person. You would always make sure that person hears from you everyday... Why do you not feel the same way about Christ? We should never put the things of this world before Him. He should be the center of our hearts at all times. We should serve Him with our whole hearts. 

I encourage you to put aside the desires of this world and focus more on Christ. Seek Him above all else. Spend time with Him daily. Talk to Him daily. Be intimate with Him and allow Him to direct your life.

He died for You!! Live for Him!! 

Love, Manessa ;)